Sunday, February 28, 2010

A time for you!

Well it has certainly been a little longer than the anticipated 1 week between blogs! Many things have been happening on the home front and the work front, but not too much on the social front! This is not a good thing because as women, we need other women around!

From primitive times women have formed communities. We have an inborn desire to group together and share the load of physical work and child care. It has only been since the industrial and technological eras that women have disbanded this natural need and want for community. However, I feel there is change in the air.

In my local area, I often see large communities of women at parks, play centres and swimming pools. Even I seek out my 'community' every Friday (obviously not so frequently lately!). It is a time to enjoy being with others who share similar situations, to express emotion without being judged and to gain insightful tips and tricks from those who have done it before! Why would we not want to be part of such a fabulous gathering?

In my last blog I asked you all to have a think about a vision for your life. In other words, "Who would you be if you were at your best?" Or to put it differently again "What would your life look like if YOU were at your best?" Now, being a Wellness Specialist, I work on these issues personally and professionally regularly, however even I have neglected one part of my vision for my best life. It is that of spending time and connecting with MY community. It is something I have sub consciously let slip and have noticeably missed, particularly the last few weeks. It is something that I have valued but I didn't realise how much until it was actually missing from my life.

This kind of thing can happen in all areas of our lives, particularly with our wellness. We get so consumed with 'surviving' by making sure everything is done and everyone is happy that we forget we are supposed to be 'living' as well. We forget about the things that used to be in our lives and gave us fulfillment. We then get angry, upset, even depressed and wonder why we don't do these things any more.

Well gorgeous gals the time is nigh! Start to put together your vision for your best life EVER. Write it down this time and include on it all of the wonderful things that you used to do and want to do that give you fulfillment. Even give it a date, say 5 years from now. You could start is by saying "My wellness vision for 2015 is...." Then write down all the wonderful things you will be doing for yourself and in your life by that time.

The next question you need to ask yourself is "How big is the gap between where you are now and where you want to be?" Sometimes asking this question may open a can of worms and the vision may seem insurmountable, however don't despair!! We will get there. With the support of YOUR community, it's amazing the things you can achieve!

Until next post.....!

EMIT your life!

Monday, February 8, 2010

The Hunter and The Gatherer - a primitive tale?

Let me tell you a short story.....

"The Hunter goes fishing. The Hunter catches 4 big fish. The Hunter comes home and shows The Gatherer and The Children 4 big fish. The Gatherer and The Children are impressed at The Hunter's catch. The Hunter stands tall and proud at his ability to provide for his family. The Gatherer collects the tubers, leaves, nuts and seeds to eat along with The Hunter's catch. The Hunter cooks the catch on an open fire. As The Gatherer and The Children are enjoying their food, The Hunter once again revels in his ability to provide for his family. The Hunter and The Children go to bed satisfied, stomach and egos replete. The Gatherer stays awake in order to tidy after the catch and prepare for the new day."

Now you have probably guessed that this is not a 'real' take on primitive life! In fact it is a situation that occurred at our house on the weekend. The main difference being that The Hunter (aka Jimmy) didn't use an open fire to cook the fish, he used the oven and the fish was very nicely seasoned with lemon, chilli and parsley!!

The similarity of our weekend experience to that of primitive times does encourage me to reflect on the roles that men and women play within our families and broader lives. Have we really evolved that much since primitive times?

In most cases the man goes out to work to provide for the family while the woman stays at home to look after the children and everything associated with the house, particularly while the children are very young. It is important for the woman to feel that she is a successful mother, wife, lover, friend, cleaner and cook (have I missed anything?!). However, often whilst trying to achieve in all of these areas, the woman can lose sight of exactly 'WHO' she is and what is important to her as an individual.

Often within my work I see so many women who give everything to their families and even friends. I can't tell you how many times I have heard "As long as everybody is happy, I will be happy!" So I ask you it really your responsibility to make sure that everybody is happy? What about you as a person? Who would YOU be at your absolute best?

It can sometimes be a challenge and a little bit confronting asking these questions as a woman because a lot of our lives are focused on other people, it's The Gatherer within us all. However, I ask you to sit down and really have a think about the questions above, particularly "Who would you be at your best?" and then write down the answer, you may be pleasantly surprised by what comes out!

Enjoy the exploration my fellow gatherers.....till next week when there will be more!

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Small steps

Well how easy was that?!

I have been ummm-ing and aaaaaghh-ing over whether or not to start a blog over the last few months. Why? Numerous reasons actually....what exactly would I write about? Do I have enough knowledge to write about the things that I am passionate about at least once a week? What would people think of my posts? And the lists goes on.

Have you ever experienced a situation like that? You give yourself every reason NOT to do things but never enough reasons as to why you SHOULD do things! It's interesting when we dig down and have a look at the REAL reason behind our decisions....or indecision in my case.

So what was my REAL reason for not pursuing the blog a little sooner? Fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of exposure, fear of what it may create, fear of what people think. Isn't it amazing how much we let fear get in the way of what we really want?

So here I am, words on the page, totally exposed for all to see. And guess what?! it feels great! There is still a slight niggle but overall I feel I have recognised the fear so now the only way is up! (That reminds me of a song...The Only way is up, baby, for you and me now!...must be an 80's tune!)

I am not saying that all fear conquering will be as easy as what I have described but sometimes making the small steps in dealing with our fear issues in life help to make the larger ones a whole lot easier.'s to the first of many blogs and to making the small steps in conquering our fears!!

Have a great day and be your best!